tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086054847137746542023-11-16T07:13:11.541-08:00The Bohemian Hereticroguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.comBlogger485125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-15576602281367369342011-09-13T18:16:00.000-07:002011-09-13T18:22:14.995-07:00Two-timing BitchSo. Philip just told me he doesn't want to see me anymore. He said there are no bad feelings, but I feel like that is impossible. He broke it off with me because I slept with Abhi. They are friends, but i have never hung out with the 2 of them together. I guess that makes me a two-timing bitch. We had an open relationship, and Philip knew I was seeing other people. I wasn't sleeping with him or anything but we had good times together. I am mostly sad because I lost a friend. It is so hard to keep people in my life here sometimes because I want everyone to be so close to me, since I don't have family or close friends here and if I do, they are very sparse. It is kind of sad. I broke things off with Abhi last week but we are still friends. I can just imagine what that lot says about me behind my back. I suppose I deserve it. I have been a bit of a slut. I mean, I like having friends with benefits. Its hard to know where to draw the line sometimes. Obviously if things were going anywhere with Phil, I would not feel the urge to sleep with other people, so maybe this is for the best. But part of me wishes I never got that close with him in the first place, so that he wouldn't be hurt. Luckily I still have Frankie, who I actually am really into. She is the reason why I stopped sleeping with Abhi. I met a new guy this weekend in New Plymouth, Matt. Well see where this one goes. I only have a month left...how much more damage can I do? I am just awful at the dating game. I think I need to cool off for a while.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-71164850366147391892011-09-12T15:49:00.000-07:002011-09-12T16:11:31.859-07:00Rugby World Cup!This weekend was great. I went down to New Plymouth with Kim for the rugby world cup game USA vs. Ireland. We knew USA was going to lose, but we had an amazing time anyway! Kim doesn't drive so I got to, which I kind of like here.<br />The drive down there was nice, we stopped in Raglan and hit up the beach and got some lunch. We picked up a hitch hiker who needed to get to the beach in Raglan. I have never done that before. Some German dude. It felt cool picking up a hitch hiker haha. <br />Then we had a bit of a sing along with Queen and Disney songs, since we didn't get any radio stations at one point. We finally got to New Plymouth and I was faced with my first couch surfing experience. HOLY SHIT-there was no couch..we got this gorgeous guest bedroom in this beautiful house on the water. The guy we stayed with supplied us with food and towels and he had a sauna and a hot tub. I was so spoiled...any couch surfing experience I have in the future cannot compare to this!<br />On Sunday morning, Kim and I went to a 911 church service with the USA rugby team. It was so cool to see those hotties up close. Later on we went to the game, face painted and all. I shouted and drank my ass off. USA lost, but we had an awesome time. The atmosphere was fantastic. <br />We met a group of guys from Galway, and a couple of guys from NZ and partied with them. It was a great dat/night. We headed home yesterday, giving Kim's Irish flatties a ride back to Auckland, stopping at an organic brewery on the way. All in all a great weekend. It was so nice to get out of Auckland for a bit. <br />This week or next will probably be my last week of work. I am excited because that means I will be traveling a bit soon!<br />October 14 I am headed to the south island for a Stray tour then I come back up to Auckland on the 25th (or something) for about a week and then I head to Melbourne Nov 2nd - 8th, and then on the 10th I go to Vancouver until the 14th! Then home! I am so very lucky my life is so eventful. However, for the next month I will be hanging out here...tying up loose ends and hanging out with some of the amazing people I met here. My time in Auckland is almost up. Its been a good run, but I am ready to get the hell out of here!<br /><br />Cheers mateys!roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-8302943876211982362011-09-04T22:04:00.000-07:002011-09-04T22:08:45.290-07:00Changes.Things have been going well. Work is good...but a bit boring, however I get plenty of free time. Yoga has been helping me keep my balance, however I have been binging on the weekends. Even though I have things to do here sometimes...I am bored. The highlights of many of my days are hanging my laundry on the line or doing stoned yoga. I am looking forward to coming home, but have been meeting a bunch of cool new people to hang out with. I am continuing to grow and learn more culturally than ever before, that's for sure. However, my day-to-day seems a bit slower. I suppose anywhere compared to NY would seem slower. I think I could really use a pep in my step and a full agenda...just for a little while...roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-45954151467953884032011-08-26T01:47:00.000-07:002011-08-26T01:51:21.077-07:00Gym dancing.Lately I have been getting really into Zumba. My biggest gripe at my gym is when, in certain songs, there is "freestyle" or "dance with a partner" time and I am always so sweaty and gross and don't want to touch anyone else's sweat. Today someone near me AND the instructor came up to dance with me, and I had to dance with them. I felt bad for them that I was all drippy..oh well. Haha.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-89565132155246969142011-04-28T21:13:00.000-07:002011-04-28T21:26:28.273-07:00Identity Crisis.Ok. So i have been recently asking myself "What am I doing here?" Don't get me wrong. I have gotten more than i could ever ask for; a stable income, the opportunity to grow in the area that I want to, a great flat, some great friends...but I just had a meeting with one of my potential advisers who asked me why I want to study what I want to study and I had a hard time answering. I guess I never really thought about it. DTCA have always gotten me riled up because they play a personal role in my life, but there is something deeper that I haven't quite figured out. Everything seems so black and white - big pharma=bad, doctors=good. He asked me if maybe I would be better off studying my topic in pharmacy or media studies. I feel as if my whole adult life I have strived toward being a sociologist. It has always been the one thing I am sure that I will want to do forever. Lately, I have felt inadequate and out of place. I feel as if I am trying so hard to collect, interpret and digest data, just to have my topic changed to find more information to collect and interpret, to just go back to the first stuff I had originally thought I would use. Its like waking up and trying on 10 outfits before realizing not even the first one was alright. On top of all this, I need a creative outlet. I don't feel much like myself. I am buying a guitar next week/maybe tomorrow. that should help. I am starting to think that if I study media, I am better off doing it in the good ol' USA, or at least canada. Part of me wants to change my topic entirely. Or maybe I need to take some time off from applying for a PhD and teach at Briarcliffe and Dowling. At least I know I can do those things and I felt like I was growing a lot as a teacher there. I just feel like I want to study something else, maybe. Maybe this whole DTC thing should just be dropped and I should come up with something less interesting to soak my brain in. Maybe this is just a whole learning process. Maybe i should just accept defeat and move on. I really just don't know anymore.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-31975083468132663562011-04-11T15:35:00.000-07:002011-04-11T15:40:25.806-07:00Hopeless?I have been so bored lately. Work is not going as fast as I would like and I feel like much of my work is becoming redundant. I really like it here, but I am questioning staying. It would be nice to not have to sell my car. I think I found a new appreciation for home, but I am not quite sure it is where I would like to live. I really would like to go away for my doctorate. I am just not so sure here or now are the time and place. I keep having to rewrite my proposal. It is so frustrating thinking about starting again at square one. I am beginning to lose hope. I know it will be difficult to come back here after my trip home in June/July. I am starting to wonder if maybe my time here is almost up. I just feel like getting a doctorate is the next step. I want it so bad, but lately I have been questioning myself a lot. Maybe I am not ready for it. Maybe I should just teach for a few more years or maybe I should just do what I am doing here somewhere else, get more experience and then reapply to schools in the states. I feel lazy and I don't believe its all my fault. Ugh. I just want this feeling to go away.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-23213226571958105782011-03-13T23:44:00.000-07:002011-03-13T23:52:00.618-07:00somuchtodosomuchtodoI am headed for the busiest week of my life. I move on Thursday. I am going to see MGMT Thursday night and I go to Welly Fri- Sun. <br /><br />My lecture kinda sucked today. I am not so happy about that. Next weeks hasto be kick ass but i don't have nearly enough time to learn all the things I am supposed to know already. this is really scary and frustrating. I wish I could have someone else teach next week's class for me. Crap. I am pretty sure the cat is out of the bag as of today and that my students know I don't know as much about the topic as i should. Gah. Well...they can't expect me to be some genius, even though that would be ideal. I have never taught this class before OR 200 people. This is the hardest thing I have ever done. Definitely.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-42781161171323916212011-03-03T19:15:00.001-08:002011-03-03T19:24:40.590-08:00Let me sleep some more.I have been having really weird dreams lately, but what else is new. I just had a really intense Tony moment and I felt an urge to write him a letter.<br /><br />Dear Tony,<br /><br />I can't say that I miss you because I can't picture you in my life anymore, since you have been gone for so long. I see similar qualities of yours in other people and find them autamatically endearing. I miss the safety I felt in your bedroom and the candid conversations we used to have. I miss that closeness you feel when you're with someone who has been friends though what you think of as the toughest years of your life. I think you would be proud of me. You probably didn't see my life as turning out like this. I wonder what you would be doing if you were alive. I hope you would still create art, perhaps get into graphic design or marketing. I just listened to dream to make believe and imagined I was in your bed with lauren and alex. I used to feel so safe then. Not that I don't feel safe now, its just...so different, who I am now. Then, I needed other people to make me feel safe. I think I have found safety within myself now. I have a lot more faith in me. It isn't good or bad, its just...different, I suppose. I really wish we could have continued growing up together. Perhaps in another life we can be close like we used to be. You were like a little ball of laughter and sass that made even the most awkward situations feel like home. I miss your spunky style, the way you were always reinventing yourself and your creativity. You were friends with so many people of so many different genres. I think we had that in common. I know that I am like you were in many ways and I am thankful that you influenced my life (minus giving me my first cigarette). I wish we could stay up all night and drive around listening to music. I would wish for that if I ever met a genie. You have forever made a mark on my heart. Thank you for being my guardian angel. I love you forever.<br /><br />Nicoleroguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-73679875494107526992011-03-02T12:14:00.000-08:002011-03-02T12:27:22.824-08:00Who am I?I used to play this game a lot at home, where you take an index card or a small piece of paper and write the name of some famous or familiar person or character on it and stick it to someone elses forehead. You do this in a group and everyone has to ask yes or no questions in a circle, until they get a 'no'. You win by guessing your person/character first. Lately, I have been wondering who I am. It is so hard to see yourself through the eyes of another. So why am I so obsessed with always trying to? <br /><br />Cooley's "looking glass self" is a psychological method where we try to see ourselves as others in our current social setting see us. We then act according to what they think of us. This is how I believe I have lived much of my life. This is a terrible way to attempt to learn about yourself, if you ask me. I really need to stop trying to live up to other people's standards of me. I know that at the end of the day I am alone, and at the end of life, we all die alone. This is a solitary journey where the meanings in my life are what I make them. I am not saying this in a depressing way, just a realistic one.<br /><br />I mean, you can have your family and close friends who actually know you, but all the acquaintances you meet along the way are mostly tools. Tools to help you realize things about yourself, tools to teach you about the world, tools to help you appreciate what you have. You can be a tool for them to help them learn about themselves as well. I hope that I am a good tool.<br /><br />RJ helped me realize something last night. He played therapist and made me realize that I need talk therapy more than I know. I just want to be liked. I can't let go of Cooley's looking glass self. I want people to think I am smart and witty, but I don't think I am smart or witty. I want people to think I am stylish, but I don't think I am stylish (sometimes). I want people to think they can tell me anything and be open with me, but I know I am not the most trustworthy person. I have a lot of conflicting ideas about myself and what I want others to see in me. I am a contradiction. I am still trying to figure out why this is. I cover it all up really well.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-21412099245401471032011-03-02T11:55:00.000-08:002011-03-02T12:14:34.014-08:00"Look at me, oh look at me, is this the way I've always been?"It has been a really eventful week, I suppose. Monday I lectured my first class at Uni. I felt like I totally choked and forgot all my big girl words. It was like a nightmare. I am sure it didn't go as bad as I thought it did, but at the time, I had the worst dry mouth, was sweaty as hell and fidgeting like no other. I realize that I didn't prep as much as I should have. I spent all my free time playing Cityville on facebook and watching romantic comedies. This is not the way to prepare for a lecture in front of almost 200 people.<br /><br />Sometimes I need a kick in the ass or for something really embarrassing to happen in order to make a change in my life. Monday night after class, I ran into Louise on the street and made her come get a happy hour drink with me. I needed to forget how horrible i thought it went. All of the reflecting that I was doing was exacerbated by drinking, and my medications made me want to drink more. Finally, after about 4 glasses of wine and 2 bottles of bubbly, I spewed all over Jamses' bed and floor.<br /><br />I had remembered in February thinking about taking a 2 week break from alcohol. This seemed like the right time to do it. So, Starting on the first of March (Tuesday) I decided to give up drinking for 2 weeks. This is a challenge. I don't think I have gone without a drink for 2 weeks since I was 20. I realize that I depend on it a lot to forget about things that I worry about, but I think in reality it perpetuates my worries because I worry that I need a drink all the time and drinks cost money which I don't have. Yeah, my life may be slightly less eventful for a little while, but at least I will remember what is going on. I do remember, back before I became dependent on alcohol, that things meant a lot more.<br /><br />I am actually hoping that this 2 weeks teaches me something, that I don't need to drink as much as I thought I did, and that I don't have to drink at every social event, and that I can be fun and social without alcohol.<br /><br />If I don't drink as much, then eventually I think I will give up smoking, since the time when I am most inclined to smoke is when I am drinking. I think this will be a turning point in my life. I need to see things clearer, to know where I am going. Because I know where I am going is great, and I don't want to miss my exit and get lost in the haze.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-33759780245530485492011-02-14T18:41:00.001-08:002011-02-14T18:50:25.114-08:00GAH! I am so angry right now! I need to move.Ok. So. I got back from Leigh, a lovely weekend with Kyle, we went horseback riding on the beach, nude swimming in the ocean, snorkeling, wine tasting and ate really yummy food; and I get this text from my flatmate Olive. It says "Hey nicole did you by any chance drink some beers that were in the fridge? mine seem to have ended up empty on the lawn"<br /><br />I was offended that she asked me. I had been gone all weekend and I have my own beers in the fridge, thank you very much. I txted back and forth with her a few times today and everything seems to be OK. She is pissed that one of the guys lied to her about it. I feel like the second anything goes wrong here, I get the finger pointed at me because everyone i live with has known each other so long. I would never do something like that. I think its becoming a case of me Vs. them and I want to move out. Anyway, I took my meds this morning, and sometimes they give me the D. I must have gone to the bathroom 3x this morning before i left for work. I came home from work to find a note on the bathroom door saying "DEAR PERSON WHO LIKES TO LEAVE SKIDS + SHARDS OF SHIT IN THE TOILET ALL THE TIME. PLEASE CLEAN UP AFTER YOURSELF-THAT'D BE REALLY NEAT." I think I fucked up this morning and didn't flush twice, usually I am really good about it though. Sometimes I go in there and its messy and its not mine. But I have a feeling that this morning it was my fault. I will be more careful about it. But it was a really nasty note, I felt the hostility.<br /><br />Needless to say, I want to move out sooner than planned. I just don't really feel any sort of connection to anyone I live with. I hate feeling like a hermit, holed up in my room. I hate feeling like an outsider in my own home. I want out. I feel bad that I will be screwing over John and the rest of the people I live with, but I just don't think I can live here for much longer. I don't hate anyone, I just hate that this house doesn't feel like a home. I want a family dammit. I don't have one here and I have never lived with people that I wanted to be a family with. It sucks.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-56762937396941990752011-02-08T00:21:00.001-08:002011-02-08T00:26:31.371-08:00PMS. WAH!Ugh. I have been so moody this past week. The last time I went to yoga I cried almost the entire time. I've been known to get a little teary eyed after back bends, but this was intense and I couldn't stop it. I have been a bit worried this past week that I got pregnant of something because its been really intense, and my boobs are huge all the sudden. It turns out i'm due. Typical. I hope I get it soon though, cause or else ill start to worry fo rills.<br /><br />A few things that have been pissing me off lately...<br /><br />1) Kyle is leaving me.<br />2) I am homesick.<br />3) I lack freedom because i don't have a car/ i have to walk everywhere.<br />4) I thought I made rad new friends from Sponge bar, and the one whose number I have isn't returning my text. I have no idea why.<br />5) I want more money-I want to take an art class, buy a new bag, buy sneakers, buy work clothes.<br />6) I am bloated and I feel fat and my stomach hurts.<br /><br />WAHHHH<br /><br />OH and something else. I hate it when I go to yoga and I put my stuff down and then some idiot puts their stuff directly in front of me so i can't see the mirror. That's fucked.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-53944034320071730702011-02-03T23:54:00.000-08:002011-02-04T00:05:43.261-08:00All good things must come to an end.So I told Kyle I loved him 2 days ago. Then I proceeded to cry like a baby during sex because he is leaving so soon. I think I just feel too much. I submitted my PhD proposal today. I am 99.9% sure I will get in. I can't spend the next 4+ years of my life hurting because the person I love lives far far away. Yes, I did think he was my soulmate. But with ends come new beginnings. I would like to catch up with him years from now and see where he is at. But we are both embarking on long term educations and I am pretty sure people change a lot during these. We had a lot of great times together and he really got me better than most people. I still love him as a person, I just have to force myself not to be in love with him.<br /><br />I am starting to feel good about this ::takes another swig of green ginger wine:: I am just worried this relationship fits in with my trends of relationships...you know, how I fall for someone and the second that I can admit to myself that I love them,I break it off. Oh well. These relationships didn't work out for a reason I guess and they have helped me to get a better idea of what I do what. At least I leave with no baggage.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-25274081521660245682011-02-01T21:21:00.001-08:002011-02-01T21:24:14.529-08:00Let go of the old and embrace the new.I had to say goodbye to one of my best friends of the last 5 months yesterday. I guess I have to focus on out of sight out of mind. I have a full life, I just wish it were filled with more meaningful connections. I am getting by. I miss home. Some days are better than others. I am baking cookies tonight and Kyle is coming over. I am going to try to drag him to a drag show haha. I got to talk to Carrie and Boppy on Skype today. That made me super happy/miss them more.<br /><br />Obladi obla da, life goes on.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-68606696770028576052011-01-28T01:31:00.000-08:002011-01-28T01:47:31.006-08:00Bikram Yoga, Pizza and Beer=The CureI have been pretty on edge all day. I always get into this mode where I know I have a lot on my plate and feel like I have to get everything done at once. I think New Zealand is helping me learn to relax a little. I think it was worse at home. I forget how primitive some people are here. I mean, its not like we're so advanced, its just that things move a lot faster.<br /><br />I went to work, started writing up my lecture notes for the first day of class. It is actually quite interesting material. It shouldn't be a problem to get excited about and produce stimulating lectures. <br /><br />Its been raining pretty much all day. After i left work, I walked to Bikram yoga where I focused on my breath more than usual. It was a really great class, more therapeutic than usual. Maybe it was just cause I really needed it.<br /><br />After yoga it was pouring more than before, so I walked across the street to this organic pizza place. I got a pizza and a couple of beers and talked to the 2 guys working there. I forget how friendly I am. I worry about not having any friends, but I think what I am mostly worried about is that all the friends ive made here are pale in comparison to my relationship with Kyle. I mean, Ludi and Lisa are both really important to me, we have a history, I met them both the first week I was here, so naturally I will miss them a lot when they go. However, I think my friend freak-out is more due to losing Kyle.<br /><br />On my way home, I was thinking about how kiwis are kind of primitive. Its strange, I've been thinking a lot lately about my flat mates. They are all really friendly, but I don't consider myself friends with any of them. Everyone kind of does their own thing. Aside from a couple of rides into town from Nick, no one has really gone out of their way to get to know me or take any steps toward being my friend. I talk to them whenever we are in the same room, I am usually in a good mood and make dumb jokes. I just don't get it. I mean, yeah they all know each other from college, so I get that I am the new girl who doesn't fit in, but no one has asked me any questions about my life or even what kind of music i listen to. I know more about the people i worked with at the restaurant for 2 months. Its really quite strange. I really like this neighborhood and how tidy my flatmates are, but quite frankly, I am bored here. I want a family/group of friends, or at least people to stay up with a drink beers with once in a while on a week night.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-68348029270809817412011-01-27T13:40:00.001-08:002011-01-27T14:05:37.722-08:00You can't have it all.Where to begin. So much has happened in the last 5 months. I love New Zealand. My career is really taking off here. Of course I have had my moments when I was scared about money, friends, drinking too much, the American stereotype, missing home, missing family and friends, finding a place to live, and pretty much everything you can worry about. This is the biggest step I have ever taken in my life, so of course there is a lot of hurting, scariness and of course growing.<br /><br />I have committed at least 3 years to living here. This will be a good step for my maturity, depth of meaning in my life, understanding of the value of money, understanding of the value of friends and family, etc. <br /><br />This country is a beautiful place. People are friendly and I think since the country is so small, there is more of a sense of brotherhood. However, I am finding that even though people are friendly, it doesn't mean that they want to be my friend. I suppose you could say the same for a lot of cultures, so this is not the fault of NZ. <br /><br />I have made 3 really good friends since I have been here. I have made several other friends, but none of which I call on when I am having a bad day. The hard part is that all 3 of my friends are transplants. Holland, France and Canada. This month I will be losing 2/3 of those people. One of which is my boyfriend. <br /><br />Oh yeah, I finally want to tell someone significant that I've fallen in love with them and they're leaving in 4 weeks. Awesome timing. I never thought that I would meet someone who gets me, respects me, is intelligent and makes me laugh and who I find so attractive inside and out. I am so pissed that our relationship doesn't have more time to grow here. Of course, there is the possibility of a long distance relationship (which I swore I would never have). But I don't want to put stress on him and myself to keep in touch while we are both leading our busy lives thousands of miles apart. I have enough pen pals at the moment. I just feel like part of it will be, out of sight, out of mind" and we will slowly forget how incredible we are for each other. <br /><br />I love him. I haven't said it yet. I am kinda waiting for him to say it, since I am afraid it will hurt too much if he doesn't say it back. That, and I want it to be said at the right moment because this is the first time I think I will truly mean it in the way they talk about it in the movies. Right now, at this moment, I can see sharing my life with him. I want to do so many things with him, simply cause my life is better lived with him than without him. He likes me for qualities that I want to be liked for and when I am having a bad day, just being near him lifts my mood exponentially. It's just so effortless being with him, and yet I think he makes me a better person without even trying. Fuck.<br /><br />Hopefully my busy career/education will keep me busy enough so that I won't have time for loneliness. Get this, I just got a job teaching criminology to over 150 people starting the end of February. I have never taken a criminology course before, but I taught Soc of crime and deviance. I haven't read any of the course work yet, but I think it will be fine. I love getting up and performing in front of people, so I am sure I will make it work and they will love me. It will be nice to finally have somewhat of an income. Along with that, I am working on a research assistantship in the pharmacy department about the awareness and opinions of direct to consumer genetic testing in NZ. It is a pretty rad project which will get me published, so that's pretty neat. Oh, and of course, I am applying for my PhD here. Hopefully by next week I will have my application submitted. I am pretty sure the Soc department is pretty gung-ho to have me here, so that will be cool. I want to do it on consumer controlled medication due to Direct to consumer advertisement of pharmaceuticals and the vast amounts of medical information on the web. I wanna look at the discourse of diagnosis and ultimately the shift of doctor-patient relations. I hope they like my idea, if not, I hope they accept me anyway, cause PhD ideas are always changing anyway.<br /><br />Woah this is becoming longer than anticipated. But, I feel a little better. Perhaps I should get on with writing in here more regularly.<br /><br />Cheers!roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-23640559521043854032010-09-01T08:09:00.000-07:002010-09-01T08:12:01.828-07:00New ChapterI leave today for New Zealand. I have a year visa which terminates next July. I am SUPER excited. I will miss my friends and family a lot, but being there and exploring a new life is something I must do now. Life is a journey, not a destination.<br /><br />I'll update again when I'm down under! :)roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-61669547356731407692010-04-02T05:43:00.000-07:002010-04-02T05:56:27.672-07:00A Lot Can Happen in Two Months.Okay, so I realized sometimes its good to get things out on here. I just don't want to feel obligated to do it. <br /><br />So, I have a girlfriend. All my close friends keep telling me I am jumping into a relationship too fast. I agree. I have only known her a month and a half. I feel like there is so much more I want to know about her before I am committed. Especially since the summer is coming and I am going to Europe for a month. Ugh. What am I doing? I really really like her. But part of me is a little unsettled.<br /><br />I got a new car. I love it. But I shouldn't have put so much money down. I keep trying to get a second part time job, but its so hard right now. No one is hiring. I apply for jobs every day and still no one will hire me. I am worried that I will be in Europe and run out of cash. <br /><br />I have an interview to be a tutor on Wednesday in the city. I hope it goes well.I haven't been to the city in a while. Maybe that's been dampening my mood too.<br /><br />I think I need to go back on antidepressants. I feel that I am constantly worrying about things that are somewhat out of my control. I should be enjoying my freedom, not condemning it.<br /><br />I didn't get into any doctoral programs. I feel that I had this path laid out, and now I am lost without a yellow brick road. I don't know what I am doing and its time for me to be an adult. <br /><br />I think I am going to go live and work in New Zealand for a semester next year. The more traveling I do, the more valuable I am as a sociologist because I will have racked up more information about different cultures. <br /><br />Anyway, I know this post was directionless. I just didn't know how to begin.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-12108402763695150422010-01-19T21:41:00.000-08:002010-01-19T21:45:38.383-08:00What Happened?Don't get me wrong. I love my life and all. But what happened to all the passion? I miss the feeling of falling for someone. Even though I feel somewhat impassioned by my life course, I feel like I need someone to complete the trend. I miss looking forward to seeing that 'someone' all day. I miss feeling giddy and childish, giggling for no reason and being able to touch and be touched. I hate feeling like a sterile alien, feeling guilty for attracting and being attracted. I hate that I am sandwitched between satisfied beings, rubbing in my face that they have this element that I am so apparently missing. <br /><br />"Someday my prince will come". Yeah right. Someday ill have a litter of cats to soothe the pain of loneliness. FML.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-49215210430496816022009-12-24T07:50:00.000-08:002009-12-24T08:12:25.886-08:00New Beginnings!Things have been much better lately. I actually LOVE teaching and have found it to be really rewarding. I just posted grades last night. I got my schedule for next semester and it kind of sucks because I will have to work during my Paper Tiger meetings and I have to wake up at 6:30 twice a week. <br /><br />I have been getting a bit of seasonal depression, but I leave for St. Martin in 2 days and then I am going to Miami with some friends in January. <br /><br />Winters are too long in NY. I keep telling myself that I am going to move to California for school. I applied to 4 schools there, but I have a feeling I will wind up going to Steinhardt at NYU instead. It is the perfect program for me, I just wish it were located on the west coast.<br /><br />OH! I am so excited. I made prospective travel plans for the summer. I will be visiting my friend Elsa in France for a couple of weeks and then I am going to meet up with my friend Melissa and probably go to Berlin and maybe Amsterdam. Then in August, I am going to go back to Taiwan, and hopefully Thailand/Bangkok or Hong Kong. <br /><br />I hope that 2010 will be better than 2009. As for my reflecting on the good times of 2009. I have a few positive notes to make. <br />-Graduating Columbia<br />-Going to Taiwan<br />-Starting Teaching<br />-Applying to schools<br />-Writing Musicroguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-418442360512036972009-11-21T17:54:00.000-08:002009-11-21T18:17:19.149-08:00Freaking Out.OK. So i have been having a really stressful few weeks. I feel like conflicts have been coming up more than enough and I miss the carefree, funny me. I feel like I am all work and no play. I really enjoy teaching sometimes, but a lot of the times I just feel inadequate. I have never questioned that this is what I want to do. I realize that I need to put a lot more time into it in order to make it perfect. It's just that I am such a perfectionist, and it hurts me when things don't happen as planned. I try and i try. The other day, I got made a fool of in front of my peers and superiors and it was video taped. I don't even know what to say. I have a lot of classroom management to learn and I know I have to change who I am to become who I want to be. But honestly, I don't know if I am ready to give up being fun and having a good time. I miss being a student. I know that I am still a student, because I keep learning new things from people and places in my life, I just miss knowing that I am good at something. <br />I am so lonely that it hurts. I mean, I have amazing friends and family, but I feel like something is missing and I know I don't have time for it right now, so its like I am forced to deny it. <br />I had the most terrible dream last night. A huge metallic ball that looked like Grimace (from McDonalds) came down from the sky and landed in Manhattan/Brooklyn area. It opened up and out crawled military men and tanks, and there was a Huge (cherry-picker-like) giraffe (like the guy from Toys R' Us) machine gun thing, that made a horrible sound. There were all these other types of demolition type machine/motor vehicles. Everyone was shooting and forcing people to eat McDonalds. My friends and I didn't want to eat McDonalds, so we had to run. They even blew up the Statue of Liberty! There was this one point where they were making a speech and the statue of liberty's hand kept going up and down, almost like it was playing a joke on us. Then it fell and the roaring war continued. Me and my bff in the dream went to visit the demolished statue of liberty and it felt dangerous. For most of the dream, I was just trying to escape all the gun shots/explosions. <br />It all felt so real. I felt SO angry and disgusted and I went back to long island in my dream, I actually went to Syosset to see if my family was still there, and everyone had died. So I came back to the city, to find it to be a fighting zone.<br />My friends and I kept returning to this diner/bar to find refuge. It was still dangerous, because the military men kept doing raids every so often. I remember going into the diner/bar in my dream and talking to Elton from clueless in a photobooth. I thought he was on our side, but at one point, in the photo booth in my dream, he turned on me and started shooting. I ran up the stairs and up more and more stairs and finally found myself cowering in the corner of the attic. In my dream, I remember feeling like Ann Frank and relating all this to the Holocaust. <br />Yeah. I probably sound psycho, but this really freaked me out. I awoke in a panic and spent the day questioning everything.<br />Also, some random person, I don't know who it is keeps iming me and threatening and harassing me. That has been adding to my stress, amongst a slough of other things.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-33498858417215095382009-11-02T20:56:00.000-08:002009-11-02T21:16:44.794-08:00The 9 of Pentacles.Tomorrow is my first day of teaching, so I decided to do my tarot. It was weird. My deck was very well shuffled and I managed to get the pope, popess, emperor and empress all in one shot. That is really, really, really rare. Especially since they are right next to each other in a deck that is in order (which mine werent). Anyway, the strangest and most meaningful part of my reading was the 5th card that I laid out, which was the 9 of disks or pentacles. That symbolized something that I will sill be confronted with. This is what one of my books read...<br /><br />Your presence in the world makes a difference. You have brought something into the world that enriches it. Therefore, don't hide your light and your beauty! Be generous and show the people around you the kind of treasures you have to give and remember that you yourself are a treasure.<br />If you want people to notice your inner treasures you must express them in both the large and small things in life. First, however, you will discover that some habits exist without any thought on your part, and some of these are not to your liking. You must, therefore, take charge of your own life and give it form and your personal stamp. This work is similar to the hard work that has to be accomplished in the vineyards. But the result of your troubles is like a superior wine In wine there is truth, and you must make your own truth fruitful.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-59621841861116922282009-11-01T08:59:00.000-08:002009-11-01T09:02:39.496-08:00The Haunted Pod Village of San-Zhi<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjDM6yAxn7zK7_HOXHMAMjw_2bFy3s0GLC3ggp2oXT9Ns-QYJtzvfO7nZj5dteUo9KCOtVdifhmvTEj_B7T1mC65yq8JxOovX6UbXsFk2V7wWX2_yLOhNS6B9BDGl7zgcV2lkNV5gpcQKc/s1600-h/716977_152641_3bd078fb67_l.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 266px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjDM6yAxn7zK7_HOXHMAMjw_2bFy3s0GLC3ggp2oXT9Ns-QYJtzvfO7nZj5dteUo9KCOtVdifhmvTEj_B7T1mC65yq8JxOovX6UbXsFk2V7wWX2_yLOhNS6B9BDGl7zgcV2lkNV5gpcQKc/s400/716977_152641_3bd078fb67_l.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5399181545377571810" /></a><br />This is really cool. I wanna go here next time I am in Taiwan. <br /><a href="http://www.jpgmag.com/stories/4622">http://www.jpgmag.com/stories/4622</a>roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-50061295371485756432009-10-30T15:59:00.000-07:002009-10-30T16:06:47.478-07:00Halloween<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhE9_UXzjy4pipKhn9ryk6KnmTo4XxC9cfk6gGxzGkYz8ODepUMUA4OrsJX75fqAxU4qs-DZOr2Z3MJzTWEo3jk3YVQD-2g0ADRZoAVQqD6_KMdyZvEt4U0R6TZPfdfOIhiZ5ljsBaRhPE/s1600-h/Photo+691.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhE9_UXzjy4pipKhn9ryk6KnmTo4XxC9cfk6gGxzGkYz8ODepUMUA4OrsJX75fqAxU4qs-DZOr2Z3MJzTWEo3jk3YVQD-2g0ADRZoAVQqD6_KMdyZvEt4U0R6TZPfdfOIhiZ5ljsBaRhPE/s400/Photo+691.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5398533015938521522" /></a><br />I have been protesting Halloween a lot this year. This is partly due to the fact that I dressed up as something 3 times in the past month ( a pirate, minnie mouse, and a hippie). I feel like I have been pretending not to be myself too much and am losing myself in the process. I know its a lame excuse. I am going to a Halloween party tonight and was originally going to go as a Marilyn Monroe Vampire, then just a Vampire. I will be neither of these things. Yesterday, I went to Brooklyn to paint over the rainbow doorways (san, I know) and I inherited an afro wig and an electric guitar. I was going to be Jimi Hendrix, but then I started getting dressed and realized I don't have any facial hair (silly, i know). So it kind of looks like I am going as my old roomate Kristen. It's cool. I feel good. I just really, really want to stay home tomorrow. I am such a crotchety old woman when it comes to Halloween. Everyone I know (and their mothers) are going t othe city/bk tomorrrow. I just want to stay home and sleep or something. Ugh sometimes I drive myself crazy. I am pretty sure I will wind up going out, but it will be a last minute thing. I wish I could just make up my mind before hand so i wouldn't have to deal with this unnerving bullshit!!! Anyway, here is what I look like with an afro.roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-308605484713774654.post-2255142900839387242009-10-30T15:56:00.000-07:002009-10-30T15:58:50.084-07:00The Dear Hunter<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjRtkZmAdnRFuUjm1zbfIfmA3umElbkHsTCX4dQaW4qrquQ9V4B2uW7LGNRmNCyZiiprGQLM5rnqQbNc0V6fJrVpb-8Q3o-4xDWH1M8AqKL2TdYYupVCw90Hi99iaAVv_bjY4VvzKXnFkA/s1600-h/The+Dear+Hunter.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 234px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjRtkZmAdnRFuUjm1zbfIfmA3umElbkHsTCX4dQaW4qrquQ9V4B2uW7LGNRmNCyZiiprGQLM5rnqQbNc0V6fJrVpb-8Q3o-4xDWH1M8AqKL2TdYYupVCw90Hi99iaAVv_bjY4VvzKXnFkA/s400/The+Dear+Hunter.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5398531315761741794" /></a><br />I went to see The Dear Hunter with Jodette and Sara on Wednesday night. I must say that I haven't been to such a great show in a while. They were awesome. They are one of my favorite bands at the moment. I mean, the song/story writing is just brilliant. I talked to Casey (the musical genius behind it all) after the show. I felt like I was 16 all over again. I even bought a hoodie! (I know what a lame-o, but I had fun).roguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15951314718400186885noreply@blogger.com0